Be A Benevolent But Not A Pushover

People who are high in personality trait agreeableness are often seen as pushovers, but this trait can work in their favor in many situations. Women, in particular, tend to be more agreeable than men, which contributes to their compassion and empathy, especially toward infants. Imagine delivering a baby after months of restless days and nights, enduring countless bodily changes, and coping with a disrupted sleep cycle. You might even be diagnosed with postpartum depression, yet in the middle of the night, when your baby cries, you wake up to meet their needs. You don’t lash out in frustration or harm them despite the stress that could push someone to a dark place. Instead, you fulfill your motherly duties with remarkable strength and patience, as countless mothers have done throughout history, psychopaths aside.

Agreeableness can be seen as a motherly trait, a strength in nurturing and care-giving. However, when you step into a world filled with malevolence, where snakes lurk in the shadows, ready to strike, this trait can become a liability. In such situations, you must be composed and assertive, not confusing this assertiveness with selfishness & bitterness, which are entirely different and undesirable attitudes. To navigate a world that can be both kind and cruel, you need to balance your inherent compassion with the strength to protect yourself, ensuring that your benevolence is not mistaken for weakness.

Blessings & calamities, are not so different after all. They overshadow each other because both come as tests and trials. Although their meanings are opposites, their nature is the same: they either destroy you or rebuild you. When you explore into the unknown, full of uncertainties with blindfolds on, and fail to understand the darker aspects of the mind and the malignancy of the world, you risk becoming a victim quickly. However, if you kick in your gears of awareness and courage, those sufferings can also be opportunities for transformation into your stronger, wiser self.

Duniya ki sabse khoobsurat baat yehi hai k insaan ko insaan samajh lena,
aur duniya ki sabse badsurat baat bhi yehi hai k insaan ko insaan samajh lena.
(The most beautiful thing in the world is to recognize a person as human,
and the ugliest thing in the world is to recognize a person as human.)